Beth Bauer is the former executive director for Gathering on the Green, a member of the Mequon-Thiensville Sunrise Rotary Club, and the author of “Relationship Rights (and Wrongs)”
After years of marriage counseling that still ended in divorce, Beth wanted to use her experience to help other people find answers that could lead to healthier relationships. The first important distinction she sought to make was a compatible vs a healthy relationship. in a compatible relationship, the participants can simply tolerate the actions of their partner, but do not inspire growth. In a healthy relationship, the partners appreciate and enhance all the things that make someone unique.
The key discussion in her book is on the topic of relationship rights which she relates to lights at a traffic signal personal rights (green), benefit rights, and safety rights (red). Those personal rights go with you whether you are in a relationship or not. These are the traits that define you as an individual such as your creativity, intelligence, and friends. This is your right that defines you as an individual. For Benefit rights, both partners need to yield to each other to give and get benefits. You know you can share your feelings and concerns and they will be respect accepted with respect,honesty and trust. Finally, we have safety rights. we all have the right to feel safe in a relationship. You should feel good about yourself as an individual without your actions being controlled by another through criticism. you should Stop that relationship if you don't feel safe from blame, humiliation, or jealousy. This goes beyond relationships with a partner and should be thought of for everything from parent child to business partners.
It is important that your relationships share goals and the partnership enhances your progress toward those mutual goals. Also, everyone should be treated as equal because we are more the same than we are different.
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We partner with other organizations to increase our impact and make your donations work even harder. When you give to PolioPlus, for example, you have the satisfaction of knowing that every $1 Rotary commits to polio eradication is matched by $2 from the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation. Thanks to this partnership, all donations to end polio (up to $50 million per year) are tripled, providing critical funding toward creating a polio-free world.
3. A record of success
Rotary unites leaders who have the skills and resources to tackle some of the world’s most difficult problems and deliver sustainable, long-lasting results. For decades, Rotary has been a leader in the battle against polio and with the help of our partners in the Global Polio Eradication Initiative, we have reduced cases by 99.9% since 1988. The infrastructure developed to facilitate both immunizations and eradication is being used to fight and protect against other diseases as well. For example, the method known as contact tracing was critical to containing an Ebola outbreak in Nigeria in 2014.
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Our 1.2 million members span the globe, uniting people who have a common desire to serve others. From teaching children to read in Ecuador to a microcredit program in Indonesia, Rotary members identify local problems and use Rotary’s vast network and the resources of The Rotary Foundation to take action in their communities.
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Peace holds a unique status in Rotary. We approach peace not as an abstract concept, but as a living, dynamic expression of human development. As a humanitarian service organization, it is both a cornerstone of our mission, and one of our six areas of focus – one of the main ways in which our members make their mark on the world.
Each year, the Rotary Peace Centers train some of the world’s most dedicated professionals to resolve conflicts and promote national and international cooperation. Rotary Peace Fellows study in a two-year master’s degree program or a professional certificate program at Rotary’s partner universities. Rotary members themselves also address the underlying causes of conflict, including poverty, inequality, ethnic tension, lack of access to education, and unequal distribution of resources. Our collaboration with the Institute for Economics and Peace is providing free, self-guided training to individuals who want to be peacebuilders in their communities.
The 2019 Holiday Food Drive is underway! Bring items with your name attached between now and December 17th to help the Family Sharing Food Pantry and your team!
Our speakers Julie and Kimberly were both here representing Family Sharing. Julie has been the Executive Director at Family Sharking for 4 years. Prior to joining Family Sharing, she was in the corporate world, most recently in technology consulting. She has a wide variety of experience from engineering, sale, and HR. She believes her skills are like a juggling act that is well suited for non-profit management.
Kimberly Joined the Family Sharing team in April. She is from Chicago, but relocated to Milwaukee about one year ago with her Fiancé. She has a background in non-profit fundraising and event planning for an international non-profit.
Family Sharing is a nonprofit organization that generates revenue through the resale of donations such as clothing, sports, equipment, and furniture. The sale of these donations provides $100k a year that goes toward keeping its food pantry open. For additional revenue, they also encourage donations of metals and textiles which con then be recycled.
This is the largest and oldest food pantry in Ozaukee County. In the month of September they served 481 households of varying size. Each household is allowed to come every other week and is provided with enough groceries to last the two weeks until their next visit. Their goal is to alleviate hunger in Ozaukee County with dignity and compassion. Because of this the visiting clients are eligible to pick and choose what food from the pantry they would like to take for themselves. The food pantry is always in need of more food donations; however, that is not the only thing they need. Many times people are in need of basic household and toiletry items. these are always greatly value and appreciated. Finally, they are more than welcoming to cash donations. Cash allows them to identify the goods they are short on and purchase them at cost from local grocery stores.
There are 15 employees and 115 volunteers on their roster that keep the resale store and food pantry functioning at a high level. Family Sharing is located just two minutes from downtown Grafton and is always welcoming to more help and donations.
Holiday Lights at the Historic Jonathan Clark House Museum on the corner of Bonniwell and Cedarburg Roads in Mequon. Join fellow-community members as you step back to 1848
Tuesday, December 3, 2019 5:00 – 7:00 (with music by Luke Edgewood) or Wednesday, December 4, 2019 5:00 – 7:00
Please RSVP by November 22 to jchmuseum@gmail.com and indicate which night you plan to attend, and the names of those in your group.
District Govvernor Steen Sanderhoff, Ellen MacFarlane, former DG Karl Hertz, and Carol Hertz enjoyed talking at the District 6270 Foundation Dinner at the West Bend Country Club on Wednesday evening
A message from the walk Manager for Ozaukee County.
Your team, Rollin' with Rotary, won Ozaukee's Walk to End Alzheimer's category: Largest Company Team with 21 people as of 10/28/2019!!!
Thank you so much for all of your hard work! Our walk is a success because of the hard work you (and your team) put in every year.
The link to RSVP for the party (please invite your family, friends, and co-workers along!): http://wteaozcelebration.eventbrite.com. Please see the flyer attached, for details.
Please let me know if you have any questions, or would like to schedule a follow-up phone call.
I have one request: do you have any pictures of your team (and some of just yourself) on walk day? The more pictures, the better! If you could have those to me by end of day tomorrow, that would be great!
12 Rotarians, and 6 extras participated in Saturday's Roadside Cleanup. The 12 Rotarians and extras include those pictured below and Ellen MacFarlane. Photo's courtesy of Ellen MacFarlane... Would someone get her a selfie stick so she can be in some of the pictures too?
George Witte was represented by Jess and her husband and their two sons at Saturday's roadside cleanup. It looks like the Rotarian way of life may be rubbing off onto her. Pictured with Sandy Custer, who is of course instrumental to this service project, as he is so many others.
Carter Azinger puts a piece of trash gracefully into an open garbage bag held by Sam Azinger while Tim Carr looks on (note, this photo was posed before leaving), while Tyler Azinger looks for trash in the Kwik Trip lawn.
John Rosing and Tim Vertz show off their skills with full bags in hand and a clean roadside behind them.
Stan Smith sported a Rotary hat to assure anyone driving by at less than 50 MPH could identify the source of the good deeds (nobody slowed down, must have been all the Thiensvillians trying to escape Mequon as quickly as possible).
Mequon Mayor John Wirth and Alderwoman Kathleen Schneider are happy to take a break from their role of sitting behind a desk to keep Mequon beautiful, and instead participate in the laborious side of keeping their city beautiful.
Jim Lysaught and Rob Kos enjoy the relaxing task of cleaning Green Bay Road where the speed limit is only 30 MPH. Rob Kos only identifiable as a result of being the only person brave enough to sport a Yankees hat in Wisconsin.
Karle Naggs may have kept his boots clean, but he sacrificed his van's carpeting by picking up and dropping off the muddy trash collectors.
Rotarians present at Tuesday's meeting gave generously to celebrate World Polio Day! $306 was raised by our Trick-or-Treater (Maureen's daughter, Jax). Peterson Apfelbach (pictured above), who warned us last week of the consequences of not giving, but still missed the meeting Tuesday, went from skin and bones to just bones. Peterson did, however, generously donate those bones (as well as a hat, tie, and name tag) to enlighten Rotarians on giving to Polio Plus to avoid the same fate as him.
Rotary’s theme for this year is “Rotary Connects the World”. Here is a great opportunity to show the Noon and Sunrise Clubs collective support and make some special connections at the Ozaukee County NAACP Branch Freedom Fund Dinner at the Watermark at Shully’s on Friday 15 November.
The keynote speaker is Rotarian Thelma Sais. She has been recognized for her work in Milwaukee. Last year alone she was recognized by the Milwaukee Business Journal twice; first as recipient of the "Business Diversity Award" and again for "Lifetime Achievement Award". Brian Monroe has had the pleasure of hearing her speak and knows her through the Rotary Club of Milwaukee, and highly recommends the opportunity to hear her speak. The emcee will be our AG Rayna Andrews.
The tables will be comfortably set for eight guests and Brian is hopeful that Rotarians will be able to fill a few tables. For tickets and menu selections please click the Freedom Fund Eventbrite link. You’ll also be able to request seating with the Rotary tables.
Thanks for your consideration and hoping that you are able to join us.
This post is requested by Brian Monroe of the Sunrise Club.
Thank you Shelley Weston for Contributing your photos! If anyone else has photos they would like to share with the club please forward them to me and I will be happy to include them in the next newsletter!
You're telling me that because you didn't give to Polio Plus the ghost of Paul Harris transformed you into a heartless skeleton??
Well I better come prepared to our next meeting on October 29th! so I can dodge the same fate!
To celebrate International Polio Day (October 24th), We will be taking time to collect donations for Polio Plus during our next meeting! Please come prepared with some change, or suffer the consequences!
Angela is now in her tenth year as the assistant dean for public service at Marquette Law School. Prior to Marquette she worked in private practice as an elder and disability law attorney. Angela came to the practice of law as a social worker- she worked for ten years with a domestic violence intervention agency in Portland, Oregon. During that time, she completed her law degree at Lewis & Clark Law School.
While in criminal law if you can not afford an attorney, one will be appointed to you this is not the case for many civil law matters. As such there are many low income individuals and families that are often not receiving the proper legal service or protection they may need. Legal Action of Wisconsin is an available service for these group to go to; however, they are only able to serve roughly half of the 25,000 eligible clients they evaluate each year. Marquette's Law School seeks to answer that call through its spirit of volunteerism and service. Every year they have a team of roughly 550 lawyers and students that are able to serve an additional 5,000 people with their legal needs with emphasis on housing, health, domestic violence, seniors, and veterans and military families. They do this from four brick and mortar locations and a mobile unit staged around the Milwaukee area.
For questions or availability to volunteer please reach out to
Thanks to the generosity of our friends at the soon to open Foxtown Brewing in Mequon, the Mequon Thiensville Historical Society has been offered the opportunity to host a Soft Opening fundraiser. The Foxtown Brewing building was constructed in 1857 as the Zimmermann & Opitz Brewery and has been carefully returned to its original purpose after many years of industrial use, warehousing, and vacancy.
The details of the event are:
WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 30
5 - 9 PM
FOXTOWN BREWING
6411 WEST MEQUON ROAD
MEQUON, WISCONSIN
A donation of $75 per person includes any two items from the Foxtown Brewing menu (appetizers, salads, boards, handhelds. and entrees) plus complimentary beer, coffee and coke products.
Seating is limited. Tickets will be available starting at 9 AM on Monday, October 21st, at the Port Washington State Bank locations in Mequon and Thiensville. Please plan to pay by check made out to MTHS.
I hope you will attend this wonderful event. It will be a great opportunity to see the spectacular Foxtown building, enjoy a great meal along with specialty beers, and support your MT Historical Society.
The Rollin' with Rotary Walk Team participated with over 450 walkers in the two mile Walk to End Alzheimer's on Saturday, October 5. Pictured above were the most people who could be gathered at one time for a photo op, specifically, Bruce Rowe, Herb Hillman, Maureen O'Leary Guth (with 2 sisters, Alison O'Leary and Kristin O'Leary), Marilyn Jacobs, Ellen MacFarlane, Sam Azinger (with Tyler and Carter). Not pictured includes Alice and Steve Sedgwick, Maureen's husband and daughters, Jeremy, Jacqueline, and Madelyn (featured in third photo), Sam's wife and daughter, Jessica and Reagan, and Cindy Shaffer. Others who may have been there but were not verified by photographic evidence or non-photographic memory include Bob Blazich, Andy Moss, Cara Seppi-Bern, and Doug Hansen. All walkers collectively lost 35 lbs. by the end of the walk.
The Rotary Walk Team consisted of 20 registered walkers, and raised $1,030. Listed donors included Ellen MacFarlane, Bob Blazich, Brian Monroe, Bruce Rowe, Cara Seppi-Bern, Carol Wessels, Dan Gannon, Dave Kliber (in honor of Edward and Floramae Kliber), Herb Hillman, Jenne Hohn, Karl Hertz, Kathleen Schneider, Maureen O'Leary Guth, Sam Azinger and Sandy and Jean Custer. If anyone is missed, I sincerely apologize. Truthfully I suspect someone isn't listed that I'd like to give a shout out to, but am more worried that I'd shout out to them and they'd have to correct me by stating that they didn't make a contribution.
Funds raised are used to support finding a cure for Alzheimer's disease. Once there is a cure, I presume there will no longer be a need to raise funds, so theoretically you could call this event the Walk to End the Walk to End Alzheimer's.
Save the date for November 19th from 5:30-7:30 in which a celebration dinner and awards ceremony will be held at the River Room in Grafton. I suspect our team is due an award or two, such as for the Largest Team, and possibly the Rookie Team that raised the most funds. If you're interested in attending, RSVP at wteaozcelebration.eventbrite.com.
Last week we were visited by Patrick Marchese the Chairman for the City of Mequon's Park & Open Spaces Board. During his time with us he shared he deep gratitude for the high level of involvement and impact rotary has had on the Mequon-Thiensville Park systems and his hope that such a partnership will continue for many years to come. The mission of the Park Board and Parks Department is to acquire, improve, and maintain the City’s park and open space for the purpose of providing active and passive recreational activities, land and water preservation and restoration, and environmental education for its residents. The various programs included are scheduling events, collection of fees, and the coordination of stewardship groups and athletic organizations. While most members of the community think the area only has a handful of park, The area actually supports 25 different parks each with its own unique arrangement of amenities and services for visitors. These parks are a key component to continuing to sustain our high quality of life!
Thanks to all those who have signed up to walk with the Rollin' with Rotary Walk Team for the October 5, 2019 Walk to End Alzheimer's, and to those who have made donations to the team. Everyone is strongly encouraged to join the team to go for a walk through Port Washington at 10 am on Saturday, October 5 or to make a donation. To do either of these things click the following link: https://act.alz.org/site/TR/Walk2019/WI-Wisconsin?team_id=577872&pg=team&fr_id=12304.
As of September 19, there are 3 Rotarians who have signed up to walk (and 5 kids, some spouses and siblings), and we'd love to have a stronger Rotary presence. All that being said, we have received donations from Sandy Custer, Maureen O'Leary, Karl Hertz, Jenne Hohn, Herb Hillman, Dan Gannon, Brian Monroe, Sam Azinger, as well as a Facebook fundraiser and an anonymous donor (It's Ellen, sorry Ellen). Thank you to all who are participating. Sam or Ellen will accept cash or check donations at either of the next two meetings before the walk, if clicking the link above is too much work. We'd also love to have you participate!
Patrick started his career in law enforcement with the Milwaukee Police Department as a Police Officer in 1995. He came to the City of Mequon in 1999, where he has held the positions of Patrol Officer, Patrol Sergeant and Administrative Sergeant. Patrick holds a certification from Northwestern University, School of Police Staff and Command and received his bachelor’s degree in Criminology and Law Studies from Marquette University.
During his time with us he shared the many ways the police department is continuing to serve the Mequon community. He mentioned the two most common issues they deal with are property damage and fraud/scams.
If you are looking for more activity on Saturday October 5th look no further than the Jonathan Clark House!
Friends of Jonathan Clark House Heritage Days – A Pumpkin Patch Festival Saturday, October 5, 2019 12:00 – 3:00 At the historic 1848 Jonathan Clark House On the corner of Bonniwell and Cedarburg Roads in Mequon .
Help the Clark family harvest pumpkins from their pumpkin patch .
Try out the chores and yard games of our early settlers .
Decorate a mini pumpkin and a pumpkin cookie .
Step back in time as you tour the historic house .
Come in an early settler costume or try on one of ours.
This is a free event and donations are welcome. For more information: www.jonathanclarkhouse.com 262-618-2051 jchmuseum@gmail.com